What businesses can learn from a Professor of Social Interaction
We sat down with Professor Elizabeth Stokoe to talk about fake rapport, âburden,â and always putting your customerâs interests first.

Learn more about Liz and how she can help your business here.
Way back in 2013, legendary business journalist George Anders predicted the number one job skill in 2020: empathy.
He saw that as face-to-face interactions are replaced by digital ones, weâll increasingly crave the authentic feeling of human connection.
And guess what? He was right. From conversational marketing to AI assistants with human voices, companies are doing everything they can to make the digital feel more personal.
But what does it really mean for a business to practice empathy? We spoke with Elizabeth Stokoe, Typeformâs very own Professor of Social Interaction at Loughborough University, to find out how companies can get better results by putting their customersâ interests first.
Listen to the interview aboveârecorded in a Barcelona cafeâor scroll down for some key takeaways.
Take the burden off your customers
If a conversation is left unresolved for one of the participants, theyâre left with burden. This means theyâll have to follow up to get information they feel is missing.
According to Liz, businesses leave their customers with burden all the time. She often helps organizations reduce burden in their interactions. The result? An upswing in positive feedback about the service, and less time spent dealing with queries.
Podcast hosts Paul and Eric found it easy to come up with examples of where burden might appear:
So whether youâre signing off an email, writing a survey, or ending a phone callâmake sure your customer is satisfied with the outcome before you finish.
Donât force small talk
Liz doesnât think you should always go beyond the transaction when interacting with your customers. We experience this a lot when over-friendly sales people and over-familiar copy lay it on too thick.
Need an example? Check out this juice cartonâs attempt to be quirky:

If your customer is interested in chatting about more than business, by all means continue the conversation. But Liz found that straightforward business interactions arenât just fasterâtheyâre more likely to reach a successful outcome.
Start with âwhatâ
Podcast host Paul wasnât so sure about this one. When working with a mediation service, Liz found that more people signed up when the service was explained in terms of its outcome for the customer, instead of its ethos or purpose.
This appears to go against Simon Sinekâs famous TED Talk, âStart with why.â And Paulâs a pretty big Sinek fan. But him and co-host Eric got to the bottom of it:
Itâs fine to be open about company ethos with customersâbut the connection between your ethos and the outcome for your customer should be clear.
One word can make all the difference
For many people, the first question theyâd ask a Professor of Social Interaction would be something like: âSo is there a magic word thatâll make people do whatever I want?â
Well, turns out the answer is yes. Kind of. Liz found that when thereâs resistance, asking someone if theyâre âwillingâ to try something is more likely to get a positive response. This magic word makes it harder for people to say no, as they risk sounding unreasonable.
And thatâs not the only one-word change that makes a huge difference. Other research reveals the power of switching âanyâ for âsome.â
So think hard about how you phrase requests to get the answers you want. BecauseâŠ
How you ask is everything
Lizâs final takeaway was what conversation analysts call ârecipient design.â In face-to-face conversation, weâre always changing how we phrase requests and responses based on who weâre talking to.
You wouldnât ask your boss for a cup of coffee the same way youâd ask your best friend. And the same should apply to a business interacting with its audience. Treat each customer like an individual, and always ask yourself: am I really entitled to ask this question?
Because keeping your audience at the top of your mind doesnât just mean smoother interactionsâas Liz shows, it also means better results.
No need to wait for 2020. Empathy is already the key business skill.